Dating.: A Christian's Guide to Dating with Purpose, Guarding Your Heart, and Building Toward a Marriage That Honors God

The book walks the whole season. It begins with dating with a destination and knowing what you are actually looking for — character and shared faith as the foundational filter — then takes up guarding your heart, and why waiting is not repression but protection: this book holds, without apology, that sexual intimacy belongs within the covenant of marriage. From there it works through discerning compatibility beyond attraction, communication and honesty from the start, involving your community, telling red flags from real flags, the role of prayer and discernment, and navigating physical boundaries in practice. The closing chapters prepare you for the marriage conversation itself and for marriage, not just the relationship — and speak honestly to the ending nobody plans for, when a relationship pursued faithfully still rightly ends. That ending, the book insists, is the discernment process working, not failing.

Nothing here is a formula, and the book says so: principles are offered as wisdom, and outcomes are left to God. To readers carrying regret over past failure, its word is grace — past failure is not a permanent disqualification from restoration or from a healthy future marriage. The book closes with a personal invitation to give your life to Jesus Christ.

Written from a Christian worldview — Scripture first.

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